How to Leave the Lack-of-Confidence Cycle

Have you ever had the experience of singing, judging how good or bad you sang something and then singing again, and again, and again while your singing gets worse and worse...or feels worse even if it sounds better?

In this video, we'll look into the cycle of "practicing" singing that actually makes it less likely you get to the sounds you want in a way that feels good.

For many us, building a skill is judgement-driven...we do something, decides if its good enough and if its not good enough, then we keep doing it until we get it "right". That can work in certain categories, (like math) but in singing, it often doesn't. So in this video, we'll look at one way to get out of a judgement-driven practice process and into a process that helps you find and spread what's already working in your singing.

Video Summary:

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Video Table of Contents: 

00:00 Confidence, the Cycle, the Feeling and the Choice

2:20 Singing practice fueled by judgements tends to create more tension/less confidence.

3:20 Singing by yourself can be challenging because judgements might be all you have.

3:41 How do you get out of the "lack of confidence" cycle?

4:15 Notice when you get into the cycle of sing, listen, judge, sing

4:47 When and how is singing feeling better for you, in this moment?

5:03 Exercise: Find a line from a song and go deeper and deeper into what feels good for you.

5:30 Your body guides you to better technique through sensation.

5:52 Exercise: Spread what feels good to other areas of your song.

6:05 Following pleasant sensations makes it more likely that you will get better at singing AND enjoy the process more, which will help you stay in the process.

7:00 You can find better technique already happening in your singing and follow that...

7:20 Join the Class at the Link Below For Lessons that Help You Feel Better in Your Singing as You Get Better at Singing 🙂

What's the Feel Better, Sing Better Class? 

The Feel Better, Sing Better Class is an In-Person & Online Class that is perfect for...

  • The beginning singer that wants to sing with more confidence and creativity & less fear and self-judgement.  You'll find a brave space to develop your voice in a way that builds the comfort and confidence to sing, either for yourself or with others. 
  • The experienced singer looking to break free of old vocal struggles without repeating boring exercises endlessly, stifling your own unique style, or getting in the way of fully feeling, expressing, and enjoying your singing right now! 

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