Having worked with so many coaches/teachers over the years…and being a voice coach myself, I see one of the biggest risks in working with a coach: you may pay attention more to the coach, than to what you are feeling/seeing/sensing inside…so you end up doing things like…

In voice…


Blindly following exercises that strain your voice, because your coach said you should do them.

Singing for approval of a teacher, and ignoring how you are moving to make sound.

Only singing with the teacher, because on your own, you don’t trust yourself to sing “correctly” (this is okay in the beginning stages of singing though).

Not actually applying what your coach gave you, because you haven’t made any time or space to be alone to focus on it. Not willing to face your voice or challenges alone.

Avoiding working with a teacher or showing up to a lesson if you don’t feel “talented enough” or “good enough” or like you “practiced enough”.


In life…

Taking business advice and applying it without taking the time to reflect and sense if this is the right choice for you.

Not taking business advice because you’re not sensing that your reasons are fear-based…because you haven’t taken the time to sense your own fear, or other emotions driving your thought process.

Not being able to recreate what you did with a teacher guiding you, because you believe that your abilities are outside of yourself, that you have to have a teacher or you can’t get anywhere.


As a vocal coach, I routinely point you back to yourself. When you wonder if you sung something in tune, I ask you questions that help your ears, your voice, your sensations tell you what is happening.

When you perform, you learn to trust yourself…rather than hope the audience, or your coach, or something outside of yourself can assure you that you are on the right path.

Answers in some topics, come from outside of you. Math was something I learned as totally outside of myself. A concept “out there”. However, when I need to make a decision where there are no easy answers, or I’m working with an instrument that is entangled with my breathing, emotions, postural habits and blind spots…I need to find ways to get those answers from within.

So how do we do this? How do we avoid the problems and pitfalls of coaching?

In the Feel Better, Sing Better Class, you get introduced to pathways of self-connection. These give you ways to ask your voice questions about how its doing the many intricate movements in play that create a singing sound.

Online courses in singing, and an "exercise-y" type attitude towards singing have limited ability to help, because most singing courses tell you what to “do”, not help you see what you are already doing. The FBSB class help you see what you are doing.

This you can do with a teacher (if they are aware of the pitfalls and have ways for you to connect with your voice) but you can also do on your own.

This is the power of the Feel Better, Sing Better Class. You are learning to listen to the feedback from your own body and voice. This is primary.

If you were to ask me what would be the best, most impactful way to learn how to sing, it would be a combination of lessons, working with a teacher and the guided explorations you’ll experience in the FBSB class. This ensures that you get the feedback from a teacher, but that you also set that aside and listen to the feedback from your own musical instrument…which is a part of you, is alive and has a mind of its own. It means you can lean on the help of a teacher, yet you can begin to sense things on your own. The pre-recorded classes in the FBSB Class are this in-between step, between being totally reliant on a teacher and totally on your own.

And maybe, just maybe, this can be practice ground that also opens up a way forward to the tougher decisions in life, which require this listening to yourself, your mind, your heart, your body, the song and music your were meant to sing…so that none of you is left behind in your life, as you go through life.


But fortunately, this is just about singing 😉 so you can also just enjoy exploring your voice and building the self-connection that leads to self-trust and self-confidence in singing.

So if this sounds interesting to you, to meet yourself in a new and surprising ways, check out the FBSB Class below!